Together Sofia is all about creating a friendly, safe, and inclusive community where everyone can enjoy meeting new people. This Community Code of Conduct outlines our expectations for participant behavior at all Together Sofia events (and in any related online groups or chats we may have). We ask everyone to kindly follow these guidelines so that every event is a positive experience for all.
Be Respectful and Kind: Treat everyone you meet at Together Sofia events with courtesy and respect. This means listening when others are speaking, being polite, and fostering a welcoming atmosphere. We celebrate diversity – people from all backgrounds, nationalities, languages, and walks of life are part of our community. Embrace this diversity and help others feel included.
No Harassment or Discrimination: Harassment, bullying, or discrimination of any kind will not be tolerated. This includes offensive or inappropriate comments or jokes related to gender, sexual orientation, race, religion, nationality, ethnicity, age, or any other personal characteristic. It also includes unwelcome sexual attention or advances. Basically, anything that makes someone feel unwelcome or unsafe has no place at our events.
Respect Personal Boundaries: Always respect others’ personal space and choices. If someone declines an offer – for example, an invitation to dance, to take a photo, or to share contact information – respect their decision and do not push the issue. In our speed dating events, accept a “no” gracefully and move on politely. Consent is key for all interactions. Whether it’s a hug, a handshake, or continuing a conversation, when in doubt, just ask, and respect the answer given.
No Illegal Substances or Activities: We have a zero-tolerance policy for illegal drugs at our events. Do not bring, use, or distribute any illegal substances. Additionally, any illegal activity (such as violence, theft, or vandalism) is strictly prohibited. We want everyone to feel safe. Illegal actions will result in immediate removal from the event and may be reported to authorities if necessary.
Responsible Alcohol Use: Some of our social events take place at venues where alcohol is available. We expect participants who choose to drink to do so responsibly. Being overly intoxicated can lead to unsafe situations or make others uncomfortable. If event staff or organizers feel that someone is too impaired, they may intervene – this could include cutting off alcohol service to that person or asking them to leave for their own safety and the well-being of others. And under no circumstances should anyone drink and drive after our events – please plan a safe way to get home.
Follow Organizer Instructions and Venue Rules: Our hosts and organizers might give instructions or guidelines during an event – for example, explaining how a speed dating rotation works, setting the route and pace for a group run, or simply reminding everyone of closing time at a venue. Please cooperate and follow these instructions. Similarly, respect any rules set by the venues we use (such as designated smoking areas, noise limits, or COVID-related protocols if any). This helps ensure safety and keeps us welcome at those venues.
No Disruptive Behavior: Avoid behaviors that could significantly disrupt the event or annoy others. This can include monopolizing conversations and not letting others speak, making loud unrelated outbursts during calm moments, or creating drama that detracts from others’ enjoyment. We understand that sometimes people might have disagreements or misunderstandings; if something isn’t working out between you and another participant, you can always seek out an organizer to help mediate rather than escalating the situation.
Privacy and Photo Etiquette: We respect your privacy and expect you to respect others’. While we have an official photography policy (see our Privacy Policy), as a fellow participant you should not take close-up photos or videos of others without their permission, especially if you plan to post them publicly. Likewise, do not share someone’s personal story or contact information outside the event without their consent. Let’s trust each other and keep personal conversations within the group unless explicit permission is given to share.
Inclusivity and Open-Mindedness: Come with an open mind and a positive attitude. Our community includes people of various cultures, languages, and perspectives. It’s okay if someone has a different viewpoint or background than yours – be open to learning from them. In our language exchanges, you might meet beginners or fluent speakers; be patient and encouraging. In all events, help newcomers or shy participants feel welcome. We were all new once, and a friendly gesture can make someone’s night.
We take this Code of Conduct seriously. Our goal is to ensure every participant feels safe and welcome. Here’s how we handle situations that go against these guidelines:
Organizers’ Discretion: Our event organizers and hosts have the authority to address any behavior they deem inappropriate or harmful. This includes the right to refuse entry to an event or to remove someone from an event. If you violate the Code of Conduct, you may receive a verbal warning, or you may be asked to leave immediately, depending on the severity of the issue. In serious cases (e.g., harassment, fighting, drug use), you will be removed without warning and likely banned from future events.
Zero Tolerance for Serious Violations: Certain behaviors (such as harassment, violence, or drug use) can result in an instant ban from all future Together Sofia events. We want to maintain a safe space, so if someone gravely violates these rules, they will not be allowed back. The decision for a ban is made by the organizer (Mike Smid) and is not taken lightly.
Involvement of Security or Authorities: If a situation poses a risk to participants or involves illegal activity, organizers may involve venue security or contact local law enforcement. This is rarely needed, and we will always try to defuse situations first, but safety is paramount. For example, if someone becomes aggressive and won’t cooperate in leaving, we might seek security assistance.
Reporting an Issue: If you feel unsafe or witness someone else being harassed or breaking the rules, please report it as soon as possible to a Together Sofia organizer or host. You can usually identify us because we’re the ones running the event (feel free to ask for Mike or the event host). If you prefer to report something confidentially or after the event, you can email us at hello@togethersofia.com. When you report an issue, we will listen respectfully and take appropriate action. Your report will be handled as privately as possible – we won’t announce who reported something.
No Retaliation: We will not tolerate retaliation against anyone who reports a concern or helps enforce the Code of Conduct. If you report an issue, you should not face any harassment or negative consequences for doing so. We appreciate those who speak up because it helps keep the community safe and respectful.
Continuous Improvement: We are always open to feedback on how to make our community safer and more welcoming. If you have suggestions for improving this Code of Conduct or handling issues, we’d love to hear them. Our community evolves, and we want our guidelines to evolve with it to best serve everyone.
By participating in Together Sofia, you are helping to build a community that values respect, friendship, and fun. We thank you for being a part of Together Sofia and for upholding this Code of Conduct. Let’s work together to ensure every event is enjoyable and inclusive for everyone!
Last updated: April 27, 2025
